BondJaneBond ( member #82665) posted at 12:51 AM on Sunday, March 22nd, 2026
I don't know if this is something that can really be answered. A BS needs what they need and that may be a very individual thing. Personally I don't really care about the details as long as I know it happened. The details don't do anything for me - well, I take that back, unless it's a FINANCIAL DETAIL because the amount of relative money spent on her vs me....that would mean something but not the location, etc. But it might mean a great deal to someone else. It might help to make the betrayal more "real" as opposed to some kind of almost like a nightmare you can't wake up from. Maybe it's a way of putting limits around it....this happened HERE....but not THERE. It might help them to understand what this mean to you , how you were experiencing this. I think there are a lot of reasons someone might want to know these things, I think all you can do is ask her what it means to her to know and see if she has a answer. Frankly, I suspect it may be better not to know a lot of details, but everyone is different. I would ask her what the details mean to her or what they do for her and then try to provide them if you can.
What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Use anger as a tool and mercy as a balm.
