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A few weeks ago one of our boys moved out of state to attend college. He's had a girlfriend from high school for over 2 years now and she told him yesterday that she's had a crush on a guy at her College for a while now so my son asked my wife if this is cheating

My wife was sexting with a married coworker, on their way to a physical Affair in my opinion though my wife is adamant that never would have happened but we know how that goes. So my wife told him yes it is cheating, she is not respecting your relationship

Later when we talked about it she said she felt like a hypocrite because at one point she convinced herself that what she was doing was just harmless flirting, just fun, no big deal and now her son is crushed pretty much in the same manner that I was

That really hit home hard for her last night. While we were laying in bed talking about this she said she is so grateful that I gave her a second chance and it took me a bit to come up with an answer so I said we had a lot worth saving

Found out today that his girlfriend has physically cheated on him four times. I'm not sure if he relayed that information to my wife, he told it to his cousin, my nephew, who told his dad, my brother, who told me.

[This message edited by WB1340 at 5:05 PM, Thursday, August 28th]

At least karma adjacent...but man, the cost. Sorry that you're son is going through this. I hope you're ok.

Hope your son takes the heartbreak and deals with it and moves on.

At that age life is all about learning and experiencing. Sometimes it can be good to have someone frame in the lesson we just learnt.

If you are up to it then either you or his mom might have a talk with him and ask him to evaluate the pain he’s experiencing and ask him if he would in the future want to be the one to create that pain for someone. Hammer in the importance of integrity, honor and morals. How that as a bf/gf couple she could at any point in time told him she didn’t want to be exclusive, be a couple or something like that, BEFORE deciding to cheat. That would have allowed him his say on what relationship he wanted.

That its also a choice if you commit, to NOT allow yourself the attraction to others. That its near inevitable that you find someone that looks hotter than your partner, earns more, is smarter, has a bigger car or better friends or whatever but it’s still a CHOICE to allow yourself to draw them into your attraction-scope. No matter what that other guy did to pull her in, it was SHE and HER DECISSION that allowed it to work. He should take that on board, and in any future relationship remember that he always has accountability to his partner.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:09 PM, Friday, August 29th]

Found out today that his girlfriend has physically cheated on him four times. I'm not sure if he relayed that information to my wife, he told it to his cousin, my nephew, who told his dad, my brother, who told me.

Ex-girlfriend, Right?