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Married for 20 years. Cheated on and off by husband whom I supported all these years. Took care of two kids and house while he was getting his educations and climbing up the career path. Now, he doesn’t need me, he wants freedom and have sex with prostitutes and other women from hookups sites.I am a beautiful woman myself, always take care of my appearance and body…I paused my own education, but worked, volunteered,and this is what I got. Always been faithful, he would come to a clean house, cooked meal from scratch. Took care of all his family sides of birthdays and all other events.Last night he packed his clothes and got himself a hotel,on the way to hotel he stopped by CVS and got condoms for just in case situation.He also opened new credit card that I had no idea about,took money from our investment account for his dating profiles and other his sex expenses. I am crushed beyond words…I am suffocating.

Very sorry you find yourself here but you will receive good support. It is a little slow on the weekends. Just wanted to let you know you have been heard. Read in the healing library and the pinned posts for newbies. Take care of your health. Get tested for STD’s. Eat healthy and exercise. Promptly take steps to secure your finances. It sounds like your WH has gone off the rails and could damage your finances. See an attorney to learn your rights.

You have suffered a real trauma. You need time to heal. Do seek out an IC to help you cope. Talk with a close friend or family member. Always value yourself. You will get through this, it just takes time. Others will be along with more advice.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:39 PM, Sunday, October 11th]

Iwanttobreathe, I’m so sorry for your pain.

You do not deserve this. Nothing you did, or didn’t do, or were or weren’t caused any of this. He’s like this because of what is wrong with him, period.

I see you registered in 2023, which means you’ve been dealing with this for years. That’s awful, but your freedom is near.

Fareast gave you great advice, but I want to emphasize: see a lawyer! Immediately if not sooner, as my old coach used to say. Not only is he wasting your money on hookers, he is potentially exposing you to liability. Take steps to protect yourself legally.

Expose him. Tell everyone - your parents, his parents, your kids, whomever else that matters, that you are divorcing him because of his actions. Talk openly about it with those you need support from. It’s not embarrassing for you, it’s embarrassing for him.

You’re a beautiful woman, faithful and good. Trust in yourself - you will be alright, and in fact, in time you will thrive. He on the other hand, will be the kind of man who patronizes hookers.

Don’t keep this to yourself, you don’t need to try to do this alone. Your loved ones will be there for you, just as you would be there for them if the situation were reversed.

We’re here for you.

If there has been a drastic change he might need a thorough physical exam. If he has always cheated and been selfish look forward, not backward. Leave him in the dust. He sounds very immature and who wants to be married to a child.
I hope you have spoken to a dr about temp help for anxiety. Also for sleep. You do not want this stress to ruin your health.